Sunday, January 26, 2014

Wives: Will You Make Him or Break Him? (pt3)

Above all, Love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. -2Peter 4:8

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Love. The word brings images of 2 hearts beating as one, couples, kisses, two hands holding on to each other, and white weddings, to all of our minds. We smile and get the warm and fuzzies. But is that what Love truly is? 
The bible says that God is Love. That He is the embodiment of Love, that it is the primary characteristic of Him. So, what does that mean?
It means, for one, that since we were created in his image we have the capacity to love as he loves.
Completely and forever.

Love is so much more than a simple emotion, a chemical reaction, a temporary feeling, and all those other cliches we hear.
Love is beautiful, a pure gift from the Father... It's also a decision, hard-work, forgiveness, hope.

When I was younger I remember dreaming about "falling" in love. How excited I was for the future, to "fall" in Love with this perfect, fantasy guy. How we would laugh and play, how he would always know just what to say, and how everything would be so perfect and wonderful.
Since I've been married I've realized that Love isn't perfect. But it can be just as wonderful as I imagined. Being married is hard work, and Love is what makes it all worth while, not what makes it.
Hosea 2:19 says,  And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy. That's God talking about all of us, and if we are made in his image... See where I'm going here?

Wives, when you married your husbands you promised to Love him no matter what. But in today's world it seem like a lot of couple's should be vowing to Love each other while it's fun. While it's easy and new, exciting! But that's not God. So that's not Love.

We make mistakes everyday, we don't listen to what He is telling us,  look upon His gifts, and all the little things He does for us everyday. We refuse to acknowledge His presence. 
And He just keeps coming back. Forgiving, comforting, giving, bringing joy...That's Love. That's God. That is our Goal.

Loving your husband as God loves. Constantly forgiving, constantly building him up, constantly humbling ourselves. Never giving up, never turning away, never shutting him out. Sometimes life, husbands, children... It's difficult. But when a couple unites in Marriage, with God as their Head, they've made a promise. A vow. To Love. 
If God is Love, if we are to Love as He loves, how is it possible to "fall" in and out of Love? The answer is simple. It's not. Love isn't just that happy feeling you get when you see your guy, that funny little twist when he holds your hand or kisses you. Love is an abundance of actions.

Like they say, Love is a Verb.
God is Love.

1 Cor 13-
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 

For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child; I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Let me ask you ladies a question, how are you loving your husband?

Expecting those movie moments? Or are you following His example, His mandate? Are you Loving, truly Loving your husband. Being grateful for him, cherishing him, honoring him, uplifting him?

Are you Love in his life? Are you making him the Love of your Life?

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